What If Anal Sex Hurts ? Less Painful Anal
Learn what to do if anal sex hurts you.
Even if you're never had anal sex before, you probably
have an idea of what it would feel like. For most people, it
HURTS (at least the first few times)! We have some
tips to make it more comfortable. By the way, this
article is intended for the person who is going to be
penetrated - since they're the ones who would probably be
looking for this information.
Many people who have had anal
sex before feel that it could be improved. You have to
remember that the anus wasn't designed to be penetrated.
Therefore, using the right precautions are very important to
your safety and comfort. Click here to
read some VERY important anal sex safety
Now it's time to learn how to
make anal sex less painful. The first thing you want to do is
buy yourself some really good lubricant. My hands-down
You're also going to want to
anal toys to help you
get used to the feeling of being penetrated. It's a good idea
to get a small, medium, and large sized toy, or to buy an
inflatable anal toy. Obviously you're going to start with the
smallest sized anal toy, and advance to a bigger size when you
feel you're ready.
When you can take a large
sized toy comfortably in your rectum, anal sex shouldn't hurt
much at all with a real penis. Taking slow steps like this is
the most painless way to learn how to make anal sex less
If you're impatient
and don't feel like waiting that long, understand that you
will probably have to put up with some discomfort. However, you
can still learn how to make anal sex less painful. The main
factors are: how slow is your partner willing to go, and how
comfortable you are you just before and during anal
I want to stress the
importance of communication with your partner. If you don't
feel like he'll listen to you if you say stop, then you should
be thinking of ways to break up with him instead of looking for
ways to numb the pain. If you're partner is willing to
listen to you, simply let him know that you want to take it
really slow. The slower he moves, the less it will
Naturally he'll get impatient
because he can't wait to penetrate you, but it's important the
he will stops when you tell him to because you feel that anal
sex hurts. .
Now that I've made that
clear, it's time to work on how you handle anal
sex. It might surprise you to learn that even the
slightest hint of anxiety or nerves can tense up your body,
causing some very unpleasant feelings down there. The
most important thing you can do to make anal sex more
comfortable is be aware of your breathing.
Before you're penetrated,
take slow deep breaths in and out. Breathe from your
diaphragm - your chest should be pretty still, and your stomach
should be rising and falling. Focus on your
Focusing on your breath
should also help to distract your mind from the pain. The mind
is so powerful that it can cause your pain to double, and it
can even completely block pain. This may sound
unbelievable, but it's 100% true. Of course, this kind of
mind control takes months or years of meditation and
practice, which I'm sure you don't want to wait for.
However, distracting the mind is still very helpful.
If you're thinking "Oh my
God, this hurts so bad. I wish he would stop. I can't
take it anymore," that causes a big problem. Your body
will react to that and anal sex will continue to be painful for
On the other hand if you're
breathing right, not thinking of pain at all, using lots of
lube, and your partner penetrating you very slowly,
things should go a lot smoother. And by the way, when I
say very slowly, I mean it. Try inserting 1 cm further
every 2 minutes.
Learning how to make anal sex less painful
requires lots of patience. It's not easy, but it's better
than torturing yourself with painful anal sex, just to please
your partner. If done correctly, anal sex will be less
painful, and maybe even pleasant one day!