What If Anal Sex Hurts ? Less Painful Anal Tips

Learn what to do if anal sex hurts you.  Even if you're never had anal sex before, you probably have an idea of what it would feel like. For most people, it HURTS (at least the first few times)!  We have some tips to make it more comfortable.  By the way, this article is intended for the person who is going to be penetrated - since they're the ones who would probably be looking for this information.

Many people who have had anal sex before feel that it could be improved.  You have to remember that the anus wasn't designed to be penetrated. Therefore, using the right precautions are very important to your safety and comfort.  Click here to read some VERY important anal sex safety precautions.

Now it's time to learn how to make anal sex less painful. The first thing you want to do is buy yourself some really good lubricant. My hands-down favorite is Eros Bodyglide .

You're also going to want to buy some anal toys to help you get used to the feeling of being penetrated. It's a good idea to get a small, medium, and large sized toy, or to buy an inflatable anal toy. Obviously you're going to start with the smallest sized anal toy, and advance to a bigger size when you feel you're ready.

When you can take a large sized toy comfortably in your rectum, anal sex shouldn't hurt much at all with a real penis. Taking slow steps like this is the most painless way to learn how to make anal sex less painufl.

If you're impatient and don't feel like waiting that long, understand that you will probably have to put up with some discomfort. However, you can still learn how to make anal sex less painful. The main factors are: how slow is your partner willing to go, and how comfortable you are you just before and during anal sex.

I want to stress the importance of communication with your partner. If you don't feel like he'll listen to you if you say stop, then you should be thinking of ways to break up with him instead of looking for ways to numb the pain.  If you're partner is willing to listen to you, simply let him know that you want to take it really slow.  The slower he moves, the less it will hurt.

Naturally he'll get impatient because he can't wait to penetrate you, but it's important the he will stops when you tell him to because you feel that anal sex hurts.  .

Now that I've made that clear, it's time to work on how you handle anal sex.  It might surprise you to learn that even the slightest hint of anxiety or nerves can tense up your body, causing some very unpleasant feelings down there.  The most important thing you can do to make anal sex more comfortable is be aware of your breathing.

Before you're penetrated, take slow deep breaths in and out.  Breathe from your diaphragm - your chest should be pretty still, and your stomach should be rising and falling.  Focus on your breathing.

Focusing on your breath should also help to distract your mind from the pain. The mind is so powerful that it can cause your pain to double, and it can even completely block pain.  This may sound unbelievable, but it's 100% true.  Of course, this kind of mind control takes months or years of meditation and practice, which I'm sure you don't want to wait for.  However, distracting the mind is still very helpful.

If you're thinking "Oh my God, this hurts so bad. I wish he would stop.  I can't take it anymore," that causes a big problem.  Your body will react to that and anal sex will continue to be painful for you.

On the other hand if you're breathing right, not thinking of pain at all, using lots of lube, and your partner penetrating you very slowly, things should go a lot smoother.  And by the way, when I say very slowly, I mean it.  Try inserting 1 cm further every 2 minutes.

Learning how to make anal sex less painful requires lots of patience.  It's not easy, but it's better than torturing yourself with painful anal sex, just to please your partner.  If done correctly, anal sex will be less painful, and maybe even pleasant one day!

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